I Did Something Good So Let Me Tell The World About It

31 Oct

Doing good isn’t actually doing good when you only do it so that you can tell everyone that you have done good.

That is a bit of a mouthful, but I can’t tell you how many people I know who only do good deeds so that their peers know they have done something good. There is a difference between spreading awareness about the causes and organizations you believe in and spreading awareness about all of YOUR philanthropic activities and how much it changed YOU.

Here is the thing, doing a good deed is awesome, but when you do something good just so you can tell others you have done something good, it isn’t a good deed anymore, it’s a self-serving one.  I have a friend who frequently does this over Facebook.

“I did this and it was an awesome experience for me!”

“I did this! And it changed my life!”

Notice anything wrong with these statements? It’s all about ME ME ME.

Don’t go on a mission trip and come back only to talk about how much the experience changed you. Um, isn’t the purpose of volunteering on mission trips to change the lives of others?

I had a friend who volunteered abroad and when she came back all she talked about was how much it affected her. I was stunned. I was like, ”that’s wonderful, but what did you do for them? How did you better their lives?” That is the purpose of going on mission trips, after all, isn’t it?

When you do something philanthropic, you don’t immediately have to take to Facebook and share it with the world. You don’t have to post about how awesome you are for doing something so angelically good, and you don’t have to talk about how much better you are because of it all over social media. It seems selfish and self-serving and it seems like you are just trying to convince people to see you a certain way.

Talk about the organizations you love and want to be a part of. Spread awareness about issues that you believe in with all of your heart, but don’t make it all about you. Because, a person who does that, is not good and is not doing good. They are only doing good for themselves.

It’s not doing good when you only do it so that others know you have done good.

You don’t need another’s validation to feel good about yourself. Knowing that you have done a good deed should be enough for you.





9 Responses to “I Did Something Good So Let Me Tell The World About It”

  1. taurusingemini November 4, 2013 at 5:05 am #

    So true, and there are so many HYPOCRITES out there, doing good, for the SELFISH purpose of getting themselves acknowledged, that, was why, from the very start of my blogging career, I’d stated, that there’s NO real altruism, becasue you’re only helping out, to make yourselves feel better about yourselves!

    • Taylor Devost November 4, 2013 at 3:41 pm #

      Hmmm. That is a very interesting idea, that there is no altruism at all. Very, very interesting. Although, I do believe there are some people in the world who are selfless in their motives, but there certainly are not many!!!

      • taurusingemini November 5, 2013 at 4:33 am #

        There are those who are truly altruistic, but, they’re rare, and, it’s hard to find those, who don’t have ANY selfish reasons for doing good, but, there are those people, it’s just that it’s really hard to find is all.

  2. thespiritualrebel November 4, 2013 at 8:48 am #

    Doing a “good” deed for any reason is acceptable as long as the good gets done, many people do the right thing for the wrong reason but so what as long the right thing gets done.
    Your semi-altruistic friend can not speak about how she/ he has changed others lives with any authority as she/he is not living the others lives, I think that they are being more honest than most by expressing what it has done for them.
    Take Care x

    • Taylor Devost November 4, 2013 at 3:40 pm #

      You’re right it is acceptable, but that isn’t the point I am trying to make. So many people in this world only do good deeds so that they can get recognition and be seen as good people. This is not a selfless good deed, this is a self-serving one. People know how they have changed the lives of others by explaining the acts they took in order to better the lives of others. So yes, it is very easy to see how any one person can change another’s life. VERY easy, actually! This blog was just supposed to high light the idea that so many people do something good for themselves and not for the person they are doing it for. And that isn’t okay. Yeah, the good deed is still being done, but what kind of society are we building with humans like that? Not one I want to be apart of. Thanks for reading and commenting … xoxo

    • Phil December 19, 2013 at 10:08 pm #

      There is no such thing as a semi-altruistic anything. An act is either altruistic or it is not. Most are not. Even when doing a good deed for seemingly no reason, such as helping an old woman cross the street, it is impossible to eliminate the self satisfaction that follows. Only a truly oblivious act of human kindness could be considered altruistic. And how often does that happen?
      There’s nothing wrong with getting gratification from a good deed. It’s the only way good deeds get done. But telling people about them (particularly on facebook) is mostly perceived as self RIGHTEOUS. It implies that the deed would not have been done without the benefit of the giver (benefit being the approval or attention from peers).

      Anyway… Great post Taylor!

      • Taylor Devost December 24, 2013 at 1:01 am #

        Thank you for reading! I think altruism is an interesting topic that people take part in for many different reasons. The idea that many people aren’t TRULY altruistic often goes unnoticed or kept quiet about. It makes you wonder if altruism is even REAL at all… Not to say there aren’t good people in the world, because there are many. Thanks for your perspective!! xoxo

  3. Carlisa Thomas July 11, 2014 at 5:49 pm #

    I read this post a little late but it is interesting to me. I am feeling very defeated right now. I shared a blog post about Feeding College Students telling about how we discovered that students were going hungry on our local campus and was told I was bragging…all I was trying to do was set an example so that maybe others would get ideas on how together we could make a difference. The article talked about the situations in my younger years that taught me and showed me about caring and how that influence made me want to make a difference. There are plenty of deeds I have done in my life that no one knows about or will know about…but when what you are trying to do calls for donations in order to get it done…what can you do? Of course, then it’s not just you…it’s you and the people who have donated the money. Why is it that a rich person can do something and we think it’s just the best thing and when a regular hard working person does anything…they are bragging? If I have a choice between doing for others and being called a bragger or not doing for fear of what people will say…you can call me a bragger all day long…the bottom line is I know what’s in my heart and God knows.

    • Taylor Devost July 16, 2014 at 4:30 am #

      Don’t feel defeated! What you are doing sounds like a truly amazing and philanthropic thing. I can tell by your response that you have a big heart and that you truly care about people and the world. Don’t ever stop. My post was really aimed towards a very specific type of person. A person who creates an illusion of philanthropic deeds in order to create an inaccurate perception of themselves. Basically, this person wants to be seen as good without really doing good, but constantly talking about all the good things they have done. This is NOT you! Keep doing what you are doing. No matter what other people say. Don’t be discouraged or defeated. Let your passions guide you, and you will never be lost. xoxo

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