In the last four years or so, my best friend has become a person I hardly know or even like. There seems to be a constant strain between us, an unspoken tension that continues to grow and at times, even, a sneaky selfish game of “I can do anything you can do better!”
My best friend has become a stranger, and I don’t know what to do.
We have known each other for a long, long time and our friendship has not always been like this. Sometimes, I feel like the most obvious comparison for the two of us is a Blair/Serena type of relationship. Serena was always the more adored friend, and Blair (who I always thought was cooler), was the one who was always trying to be seen as just as good if not better than her best friend. When in reality, they were both equally beautiful, smart and successful in their own unique, individual way.
One was always hiding in the shadows so as not to upset her best friends insecure and jealous nature.
My question is, what can be done at this point? How does one salvage a relationship that at one point meant everything? Can it even be saved?
My advice to anybody else would be to cut the ties that bind, that bring you down. Easier said than done, though.
Growing up does change relationships, especially between friends. When your best friend stops being happy for your success, stops being supportive, stops being their for you through the hardships and ultimately becomes more concerned with being better than you… what really, can be done?
I don’t want a friendship that revolves around one-upping the other.
And maybe my friend feels this same way, and maybe it really hurts and confuses her as well. Or maybe, she doesn’t care anymore. Relationships end because people stop trying. I don’t want that to happen, but it takes more than just me.
You can love someone so, so much and yet, somewhere along the way, you just stop needing them like you used to.
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